Today I’ll share with you some bite-sized tips.
Designed to help you enjoy your wedding day, stress-less and manage your anxiety.
This article isn’t going to be judgemental.
Instead, it’s simply based on what our happiest clients have done.
Hopefully it helps.
#1 Manage Your Expectations
The most complex weddings create the highest expectations. It makes sense. After all, if you have invested a lot of time and energy, you are more likely to expect a greater result from your efforts.
The opposite is generally true. Less investment = less expectation.
This sounds a bit cynical. It’s actually quite a liberating thought.
Think about it this way – have you ever performed well at something with minimal effort? It feels great, even though you probably could have done a little better with significantly more investment. This is the law of diminishing returns. The point comes where the benefit doesn’t justify the cost.
I’m not suggesting that you shouldn’t have a lavish wedding. Many of my clients do!
Generally speaking: the clients that are satisfied with a jam-packed wedding schedule are naturally gifted at organising events.
The following assumptions about our clients are usually true:
- They are not experienced event managers
- Their wedding is the largest event they will ever organise
- They have other life commitments
This is why they keep it simple. Less is more. They manage their expectations and remain realistic.
This isn’t a high budget Hollywood movie. It’s a wedding between two people who love each other.
I encourage you to be honest with yourself. Do you want the added pressure and expectation? Or do you just want to enjoy the things that matter to you?
#2 Invite a good mix of friends and family
This is especially useful for keeping the dance floor full. The young people generally last longer. That’s why we usually save the RnB and hard-hitting bangers for later.
#3 Spend time on the dance floor
Get your socialising done before the first dance. Once the formalities are over, savour the final moments of your big day. If dancing is your thing, do it.
#4 Pick great wedding suppliers and trust them to do their job
Do your due diligence and let your vendor do what they do best.
Read reviews and request recommendations from fellow vendors. I also suggest you search for red flags. Some of these include a terrible website, minimal social media presence and slow communication.
The best photographers can direct a photoshoot and suggest amazing locations. The best musicians can pick songs that you never would have thought of. The best venues will think of the little things that make all the difference.
On this note: our happiest clients usually let us pick most of the songs.
Creating a lengthy playlist isn’t usually worth the effort.
It’s virtually impossible to predict which songs will fill your dance floor. The general rule of thumb is: every crowd is slightly different. Our DJs are experienced in reading the room and accepting song requests from guests. This is the best way to keep the dance floor full.
Also, asking your guests for song requests PRIOR to your wedding day is also rather unproductive. Many of them will add songs ‘just for a laugh’ (e.g. SLIPKNOT! raahhhhh!). They’re not actually serious. However, on the night, many of your guests will request songs that they ACTUALLY want to hear.
I suggest you leave the heavy lifting to us.
Technology allows us to access an incredibly large library of music. Unless you’re a die-hard fan of African Metal or Pinoy Pop. In that case, bring a USB stick on the day.
Feel free to shoot through a few songs you love, a few songs you hate and let us pick the rest. This is the winning formula that works for our most satisfied clients.
#5 Delegate some of the wedding planning to friends and family
There is only so much time in the day. Ask for help. Don’t expect perfection. It’s really common for a client to delegate someone else to book Advantage DJs.
#6 Get Married For The Right Reasons (Not Social Media Stardom)
This last point is a bit risky but it needs to be said.
You don’t need to spend $30k – $60k to get some nice photos and 15 minutes of Instagram fame.
Have a good think about what marriage means to you guys. It’s simply not worth starting your marriage in financial stress if it was for the wrong reasons.
What You Can Do
We accept a large amount of responsibility to ensure you are satisfied with our service. In return, we simply ask that you go easy on yourself. Nothing ever goes entirely according to plan.
Create an experience that speaks to your values and you will receive a higher level of satisfaction.
Please get in touch if you want to chat further. We’re always happy to provide wedding useful tips and advice.